Working on people with The Emotion Code involves releasing negative energy from the body, but it does NOT need to involve rehashing the past. Some people find it therapeutic to vent about past hurts, but unless you’re a therapist, this shouldn’t really be part of your sessions. The Emotion Code is about letting go of negativity, not re-living it. Below are some guidelines to follow in your sessions:
1. It’s okay for your clients to briefly mention painful past or current events, but discussing them in detail is not necessary. Explain to your clients that you will do your best to remove the emotional charge from their memories, and they can help facilitate this by choosing to focus on other things instead. If a memory is still painful even after a session, they can come back to you and ask for more work to be done around it.
2. We do not gossip with our clients. Keep your opinions to yourself – even if your client tells you how horrible her ex-husband was to her, it will not help her for you to add negativity to what she already feels. You can be sympathetic and say, “That must have been really hard. Let’s see what we can do to make it better” instead of “What a monster, I can’t believe he did that to you” etc.
3. Keep your reactions and feelings to yourself. You will eventually hear about some horrendous things that people have been through. It is rarely, if ever okay to express your personal feelings about a situation that occurred in a client’s past. Don’t let your shock, outrage or sadness show! As in #2 above, you can by sympathetic, but don’t let it go beyond that. It will make you a stronger and better practitioner if you can focus on the client’s emotions, and not your own.
4. Stay in control of the session. If a client starts prattling on and on, its okay to interrupt and say, “I need to interrupt you. For the sake of time, we need to keep the session moving.” Expect their respect of your time and your rules and that is what you should receive!
1. It’s okay for your clients to briefly mention painful past or current events, but discussing them in detail is not necessary. Explain to your clients that you will do your best to remove the emotional charge from their memories, and they can help facilitate this by choosing to focus on other things instead. If a memory is still painful even after a session, they can come back to you and ask for more work to be done around it.
2. We do not gossip with our clients. Keep your opinions to yourself – even if your client tells you how horrible her ex-husband was to her, it will not help her for you to add negativity to what she already feels. You can be sympathetic and say, “That must have been really hard. Let’s see what we can do to make it better” instead of “What a monster, I can’t believe he did that to you” etc.
3. Keep your reactions and feelings to yourself. You will eventually hear about some horrendous things that people have been through. It is rarely, if ever okay to express your personal feelings about a situation that occurred in a client’s past. Don’t let your shock, outrage or sadness show! As in #2 above, you can by sympathetic, but don’t let it go beyond that. It will make you a stronger and better practitioner if you can focus on the client’s emotions, and not your own.
4. Stay in control of the session. If a client starts prattling on and on, its okay to interrupt and say, “I need to interrupt you. For the sake of time, we need to keep the session moving.” Expect their respect of your time and your rules and that is what you should receive!
Dr. Bradley Nelson
Author of The Emotion Code & Creator of The Body Code System
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